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11 July 2008, 1:27 PM
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Nobby
Joined 26 Feb 2007
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You sed you felt mushy in your previous post - was purely agreeing with you! lol To the person with the problem teenager, its really hard init? I just found out this morning that my A+ grade, gentle daughter has been lying and stealing. That was a shock, i can tell you. Am seething! Just dont know how best to approach it. Think im going to talk to her and see whats triggered this..theres got to be a reason behind it, but i just cant figure it out. Gosh this is a hard stage of parenting - Gavin, enjoy yours whilst they are little!!
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11 July 2008, 3:24 PM
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Gavin
Joined 1 Jul 2008
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sorry the lack of sleep obviously makes me stupid sometimes. I am very Mushy lol x x You are right, talking to your daughter will help, but I was the same, I never got in trouble ever and was in all the high classes but sometimes you want to do something against the norm, whether its stealing or taking drugs or boozing. As long as you have understanding , and approachable ,friends and family, these silly little miss haps don't become the NORM. I'm sure you are a great mum and maybe even a good friend to your daughter and just by speaking to you in these pages I can see you are very Wise (I left out OLD) and will sort the situation out and A+ daughter will be on track in no time. You will need to put your Superwomen outfit on. (Something I would love to see) lol x x
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11 July 2008, 6:58 PM
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Nobby
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I am 31yrs young i will have you know!! Over the hill but not quite past it, apparently!!
Well, we had a chat..turns out she is upset about some stuff, but i really feel as though my trust has been pushed too far. She has been lying a lot recently and she knows she can talk to me about anything so im feeling a bit disappointed, in her and myself - not feeling like such a great mum!
Maybe you could send me your superman pants so i can borrow them?
But wash them first....!!
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14 July 2008, 8:46 AM
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Gavin
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31!!! he he. Just teasing, i'm 31 in February next year but as blokes are more imature then you lovely ladies I think that really makes you nearly 40 lol. . It's good you and your daughter spoke. But don't take it too bad. My mum is great and I can talk to her about anything and she loves to talk, but sometimes you want to have secrets and make your own disisions and mistakes. I kept quiet about some money problems and now I'm having to sell the house to pay off debts (which is a nightmare in ther current housing climate) but didn't want to feel like a failiure. Obviously now I feel even more like a faliure and talking may of helped, but at least I have now learnt that lesson. You don't need my superman pants (they are dirty) your Superwomen bra and thong seem to be suiting you well lol.. That is a lovely image for early Monday morning x x lol x x
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14 July 2008, 9:33 AM
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Nobby
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Aww, you made me smile on a crappy monday morning! lol Thanks for that. In reality..you are so wrong - if you saw that image it could cause you many future years on a psychologists couch...but lets not go there!!
I did talk to her, and i understand what you say about keepign some things to yourself, i too have a pride which takes me down every time and would rather starve than ask any of my family for money..it also reflects in my children as my hubby is a bit of a vacant father and i have reeeeeeeeally struggled with them this wkend. Am dreading the 6wks holidays! Turns out my other daughter had her trainers taken off her at school last week and didnt tell me either - they are 8yrs old..a sad reflection of the times. Very tempted to go and knock on the offending child's door and get them back! GRR!
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14 July 2008, 10:28 AM
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Gavin
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My god, I would also want to do that. Sarah would just kick the door down or make me do it. I had a 5 year old who thought it was fun to push Adam over and make him cry, 4 times, at my cousins party last year. All I wanted to do is go and kick the little sod up the bum and say you touch my son and then you mess with me. Being 6ft 1 in height (and width) I'm sure he would have pooped his little pants. But really didn't know what to do. I asked not to do it each time and said how would he like it. His reply was to laugh and run off. People in general just confuse me sometimes. There seems to be more nutters and horrible now then there ever was before. But don't worry, Superman will keep trying to make a difference, and as long as there is people like you (Superwomen) then I know there hope is out there.
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14 July 2008, 10:42 AM
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Nobby
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I tend to find the parents and either give them an evil eye or tell their kid off in front of them - usually shames them into saying something! lol
Would go and deal with these parents, but we've had dealings with them before and they are non desirables to say the least! School is meant to be dealing with it, but they've not returned my call yet..Grr!
Why dont we get a parental handbook BEFORE having kids?!! Can be such hard work sometimes!
How are your boys feeling now? Better?
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14 July 2008, 11:35 AM
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Gavin
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That hand book would be a best seller. Shall we go halves on it. You write it I'll stand there in my Superman Pants. Kids are both feeling good again thanks, both slept through the night last night and hopfully they are not giving Mummy a hard time today. They have been extra demanding since the colds but after a nice weekend I think they are back to normal. Adam the 2 1/2 year old sang twinkle twinkle little star to me yesterday, well that was that 6ft 1 scarry man in tears right there. I love them so much it really does hurt. I am making sure I enjoy every second I can while they are young, just in case they get corupted by other people when they grow up. I just want to wrap them up in bubble wrap and not let anyone ever hurt them. But I know that is silly and how most people feel, just never thought I would feel that way. I want to be a good friend to them as well as SuperDad.
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14 July 2008, 1:45 PM
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Gavin
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Tried your e mail address. Did it work
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15 July 2008, 0:42 AM
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Nobby
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Hiya, yes it was the right one - i emailed you back just now. :-)I love it when they sing..i go to the school performances and hear their angelic (!) voices and im the same - all blurry eyed! lol
Soppy SuperHeros arent we?!
I think you feel the way most parents do about the bubblewrap, me especially at the moment! Mine started senior school and she just transformed overnight, and not in a good way! Am feeling extra guilty now coz i neglected my 8yr old and she had problems too. :-( Nevermind, shoe incident is now sorted and she now has her full kit, ready for victory on her sports day on wednesday!
I took them to the beach tonight, just for a change of scenery. It was cold but good fun. We wave-hopped anyway! Found some little fish too, but couldnt catch 'em. Didnt find any crabs today though. I love the beach, it was just what i needed to unwind..reconnect with nature...and enjoy my girls! Phew! At least they had smiles on their faces again, and so did i! :-D
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15 July 2008, 1:32 AM
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Nobby
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By the way..if i write it and all you do is stand there in your superman pants - the least you could do is let me put your picture on the cover!! "How To Be A SuperHero Parent.." This could be big..as an idea, this could really TAKE OFF!! HaHa!
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18 August 2008, 1:02 AM
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kitty
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nobby dont feel to bad about your daughter. i think its just a phase around that age that they start stealing.. being honest when i was about 12ish i started stealing didnt stop till i was about well about 13ish. you know how my family got me to stop ? they made me feel like crap lol.. literally made me feel like summit they had stood in then tried to scrape off for a week.. my mum called it tough love.. i call it bloody damn evil lol... worst year of my life (well ok maybe not but one of the worst lol) didnt feel loved at all and i kept doing it coz i wanted my brother to love me (haha how sad is that lol but wed only met him a few years earlier and he didnt seem to wanna know us.. i only stopped coz i fugured why bother with someone who doesnt love me when i got a bunch of people that do :) or so i told myself lolpoint is there is loadsa reasons she could be doing it.. my brother is 14 now i think he started stealing at like 11years old or something and hes way worse than i was i only ever done it from shops he will even go as low as stealing from my mums bag .. he robs all my stuff and bloody sells them (hence my lock on the door lol)he seems to have calmed down alot with that though now he isnt hanging around with my cousin... im sure its just a phase with your daughter but hope you manage to sort it :-) gavin: glad you got out with your gf sounds like you both really needed it.
btw--- your boys are just adorable :-)
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18 August 2008, 3:01 PM
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Nobby
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They are v cute, i agree!!
Kitty, we seem to have knocked it on the head with her - she was going through some stuff at school which wasnt good and i think it was her way of getting attention. Anyway, we talked it all through and she hasnt done it since. Phew! Now i just gota sort out the "trying to kill her sister" scenario this morning, and i will be up for "Parent with patience of a saint" award!! lol
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18 August 2008, 4:34 PM
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Gavin
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Time is running out for my little swimmers as I will be having the snip soon so there will be no more gorgeous little boys coming from my Jeans x x lol x x
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18 August 2008, 7:31 PM
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Purp751
Joined 3 Jul 2008
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I can understand the stress side from the travelling etc, when me and the wife first got together I moved to wlaes to live with her save uprooting the kids etc, but was'nt any work so ended up travelling between 4 and 5hr round trips a day back to derbyshire for work, so when she saw me I was either asleep or had no energy to do anything, but it's come right in the end not all calm seas but we're getting there lol.
As for kids lieing our youngest is a serial liar and really pee's me off but the one that got us both really mad was earlier in the year, when "one of them" had plugged the wrong charger into the portable dvd player, end result it caught fire after they'd gone to bed, sat on the floor in front of the door so if had caught properly would have been knackered but still couldnt have the balls to own up to doing it, took a fortnight of sitting them at the table from home time til bedtime to get the truth, aahh kids! sometimes! lol
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18 August 2008, 9:55 PM
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kitty
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haha you wont beat that senario lol... little kids running around popping there heads in front of the tv and screaming all the time lol.. there just isnt enough rooms in the house to seperate them all LOLglad you seem to have sorted things out though
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18 August 2008, 11:21 PM
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Nobby
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Shame, Gavin. :-( Great pic of your boys, by the way.
Kitty - as long as there's just one room for me to lock myself in, away from the chaos for 5mins then i dont care!! lol (usually the loo...!!!)
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18 August 2008, 11:28 PM
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kitty
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haha lucky for me i got a biiig lock on my door to stop the cats getting the hamsters a few years back. so i hide in their when things get chaotic lol.. no escaping bindi and angel though =-O
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19 August 2008, 8:55 PM
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pc
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Hi guys...talkin about kids stealin..my youngest has been nickin off us (mom dad and brothers) for the last couple of yrs now...cannot stop him..hes a down and outright liar too....have to lock everythin away and then he breaks the locks to get in and then denies its him thats done it..bearin in mind theres only him in the house sometimes wen stuff goes missin...we too have sat him down (hes 20) and told him how it makes us feel and exactly wot we think of him..but it dont bother him..last friday my next door neighbour came round and i stepped outside my front door forgettin my bag was on the table..was out chattin to her for around 15-20mins andcame back inside and suddenly realised has left him in with my bag...£20 gone missin...he denies it...caused huge huge row wen my hubby came home..didnt bother our son tho..just sat there and kept denyin it...any ideas as to how we can stop this...apart from either throttlin him or choppin his ruddy hands off?? i've always been under the impression that even criminals dont rob from their own families...he's even nicked my eldest sons bank card and empties his account...welll we suspect its him..after goin into things etc etc...HELP...folk keep tellin me to put him out...i cant do that..and i cant see that solvin anythin to be honest...
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20 August 2008, 0:32 AM
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Nobby
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Is ther something behind this? Usually they wont steal from family unless they are desperate and as a rule its usually drug related (pls dont take that personally, obviously i dont know your son - but generally speaking, it usually has something to do with it) Either that or they have a problem they wana discuss - as in my daughter's case. She is alot younger than him though, and at that stage anyway! lol
Thankfully after talking to her about her problems, she hasnt done it since. I dont know wot to suggest to you - other than reporting him to police and letting him know you wont stand for it (especially if hes emptying bank accounts etc.) Tough Love - but very hard to do to your own children, im sure.
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