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ADHD
17 August 2009, 1:26 PM
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AC
Joined 14 Aug 2009
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Hi my grandson who is six is waiting for an appointment to see someone
about his behaviour which is really quite dreadful, i am his Nan and have
day to day care of him as my son works abroad. He is really hyper and
can be very spiteful verbally and physicaly. It has been suggested that he
may have ADHD or somthing very similar. I would love to hear from
people who have any experience of this.
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ADHD
17 August 2009, 9:12 PM
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~Tanya~
Joined 2 Jan 2009
1868 posts
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Hi,
My younger brother has been diagnosed with ADHD. He was a complete nightmare to live with, and kept getting in trouble at school too. He's now on medication, which my parents struggle to get him to take. He basically rules the house, does what he wants, eats what he wants, goes and and doesn't come home till he wants, doesn't go to school if he doesn't want to...and he's only 12!
He's smashed up his mobile phone, the house phone, his computers, snapped playstation games in half, all in fits of anger when things don't go his way. The one day he came over to me and smacked me in the face with his metal golf club, all for no reason.
So i can totally understand what you must be going through, living on edge, scared to say the wrong thing through fear of 'setting him off', numerous times me and my mom have ended up in tears because of him.
Thankfully, i've now moved out so don't have to go through it anymore.
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ADHD
17 August 2009, 10:09 PM
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pramaholicmum
Joined 15 Feb 2009
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six is very young to be diagnosed with adhd i have 2 hyperactive children and was myself hyper ! children are not very good at expresing themselves and change can sometimes trigger extreme behaviour ,you have to be very firm with strict boundries and try not to give in to tantums ,I work with children with adhd and sometimes just a diet change helps severe cases of adhd are actually misdiagnosed asphergers which is a very different ball game good luck with the doctors and try everthing before the medication as the side effects can sometimes be far worse and at six the energy levels are sky high role on bedtime if the little ones sleep !!!
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ADHD
17 August 2009, 11:54 PM
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susie
Joined 1 Sep 2008
448 posts
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hi ac,your not alone but i bet u thought u was didnt u,i did till the other month,then i asked on here wat i could do wth my son and there is alot of good people on here that will give u advice and share our probs,i have a 13 yr is special needs,he use to be real bad a few months ago but since i took him out a mainstream school and moved to a new area he has calmed rght down,the problem i am having now is he is a real bully to my partners kids who is 3 and 10(also special needs),we was getting help untill we moved and really getting somewhere but since then we not getting any at all,its hard work isnt it but and the end of the day they our children/granchildren so we put up wth it,i really dont know how my partner puts up wth him,most men would of walked out by now but he is fighting it and helping him all he can
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ADHD
18 August 2009, 10:30 AM
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danielle
Joined 9 Jan 2007
1032 posts
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computor games and e numbers start my nephew off he hasnt been diagnosed with adhd but very simular simptems normaly his sister or brothers head he trys to smash. he not to bad when one on one and can monitor every thing going on. getting exsited will all so start up a fit so i try to keep him carm when go out
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ADHD
18 August 2009, 11:36 AM
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AC
Joined 14 Aug 2009
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Thanks Tanya for your comments your interest is much appreciated
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ADHD
18 August 2009, 11:37 AM
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AC
Joined 14 Aug 2009
6 posts
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How very true thats humans for you.
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ADHD
18 August 2009, 11:40 AM
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AC
Joined 14 Aug 2009
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Thank you for your support. Yes it is quite hard at the moment but
hopefully things will get better.
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ADHD
18 August 2009, 11:45 AM
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AC
Joined 14 Aug 2009
6 posts
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Thanks for your support, your problems seem so much worse than
mine it really is hard to get the support you need. I dont know what
area you live in but have you tried CONTACT support group, they are
just starting to help me and they are excellent.
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ADHD
18 August 2009, 11:48 AM
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AC
Joined 14 Aug 2009
6 posts
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Thanks for your support, yes you do need to be calm and its not
always easy is it.
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ADHD
28 August 2009, 9:38 AM
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Scosha
Joined 24 Sep 2004
1353 posts
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Hi,
My youngest son has ADHD & Dyscalculia & mental issues it can be a struggle but it takes a long time to be diagnosed so time and pations is a must go to your local SAB and they will point you in the right direction.
We go through months of being ruff and then get good and you got to promote the good better than the bad well that help us.
I would change my Son for the world i love him for what he is its everyone i hate others who dont under stand him e.g.. if he was my son id smack him... no such thing as ADHD... ect ect..
I get no help from others he is not on medication as i fear all the horror stories but can work for some kids .... I wish you good luck hope you get things sorted..=)
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ADHD
29 August 2009, 0:28 AM
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Laney
Joined 26 Aug 2007
902 posts
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hi, me too! well my son, funny how it is nearly always boys!! My son is dyslexic, dyscalculi, glucose intolerant and ADHD... AND has made it to 15!! We have been/seen/listened to every bit of advice going. I rejected medication which was offered when he was about 7/8, usually these conditions are not referred/diagnosed until about 7yrs old. We use diet and exercise and although certain foods 'set' him off, orange juice (and dilute is the very worst!), coke, most sweets and chocolates, alot of fruit, but that could be linked with his glucose intolerance. We don't stop him from having any of it as long as he is engaged in very physical sport. When he was little, a birthday party on a bouncy castle - as long as the parents were aware, which they usually were as your child is labelled by the school as naughty....these are children that just cannot stay still...then he could eat all party food as long as the parents supervised ALOT of bouncing, they only needed to supervise as he got hyper enough to not be fully in control of his limbs!! Bike riding and long walks with the dogs through fields that he could run and run in. After the hyper usually comes the 'downer'. For my son that was tears when little and now he just takes himself off to his room, sometimes stroppy, plays on the x-box and comes back when ready, we don't question this, it just happens. Thankfully his passion in life is whitewater....so alot of energy gets expelled!!!!! Finding what makes him hyper, food, flashing lights etc., and working around them, that and not expecting the worst to happen....oh...and patience....wine and...more patience!! I love my son and wouldn't change him, but finding how to control him was a bonus! good luck and perhaps a trampoline for christmas!!
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ADHD
29 August 2009, 10:06 AM
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karen bedford
Joined 29 Mar 2008
280 posts
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Hello i also am a long suffering mother with two children with mental issues..matt who is 10- 11 in November and Corey who is 9 -10 in march..matt has has problem all his life .He has had a statement for communication from the age of four,He has not been diagnosed with ADHD but we are waiting for another test for autism he is on the spectrum but where we don't know,he's got a lot of issues ranging from turrets, learning difficulty's and autism ,now he has curvature of the spine that has only recently been picked up,he can not tie laces ,cut up meat ,*!#%!@ his mouth with food ,and has trouble wiping himself after the loo ,does not wash hands after loo and so on .I am constantly behind him with the bathroom spray cos he gets it every where ,sorry if your eating when reading this ,then i have Corey he's a type one diabetic and has been from the age of two he can not read at all ,he does get extra help with his work at school but not with a statement ,i also have two other sons ,yep a house full, but receive no extra help from anyone ,i have no parents to help ease the pressure .i must admit im counting the days till they are all back to school ,roll on next week
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ADHD
30 August 2009, 7:42 PM
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saritawells
Joined 4 May 2009
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You may want to follow a behaviour management called 1 2 3 magic. if you look on http://www.adhdsolutions.org.uk this might help. They are based in Leicester but they may be able to help in your area
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ADHD
3 September 2009, 8:44 AM
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katrowland83
Joined 14 Mar 2009
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i have a 4 yr old son with adhd and he has good days but on his bad days he is spiteful hyper and just tring to be around. would love to make some new friends is the same situation to talk to as i feel like im going mad lol kat
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ADHD
6 September 2009, 2:33 PM
 Edited by Kanga_roo_juice 6 September 2009, 2:38 PM
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Kanga_roo_juice
Joined 21 Aug 2006
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Hi I also have a 5 year old who can be very hyper, we have tried all kinds of discipline, from naughty step to withdrawing items from his such as favourite toys, he has an answer for everything. He is also very spiteful with his brother and sister, also us. It can be very draining and frustrating. I am not sure if he is just a naughty child or if he does have some underlying problem that needs looking into.
I am in two minds of what to do at the moment, so know what you are going through.
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ADHD
8 September 2009, 6:44 PM
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katrowland83
Joined 14 Mar 2009
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hi your kid sound very similar to mine try and see if the doctor will get him checked for adhd as they say the quicker you get on top of it th better. i am still in the early stages and awaiting to hear from a specilist about medication as my little boy is getting out of control and im on my own with the boys leo is very strong and nothing works i have also tried all the normal routes ie naughty step but nothing gets through to him and now he is getting voilent toward me and his brother must weeks im and covered in bruises from head to toe. im getting to the end of the line with him i dont know what else to try. im a mother with no control and i just want my little boy back the one that used to give me kisses and cuddles all day.
Hi
Thank you so much for you email... it is so nice to know we are not alone. I was and am still thinking he is perhaps just going through a naughty stage that is getting worse.
Interestingly enough I looked up today on ADHD I don't think (think) he(my son) has this but perhaps ADD.
Our two boys sound so similar though. Thanks for your email
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ADHD
26 October 2009, 2:51 PM
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kelleyrogers
Joined 26 Oct 2009
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Hi there.. I have an 8 yr old boy who acted and behaved the same way as your grandson. Be very careful not to label him as this behaviour may just be typical of a boisterous and hyper boy. But I know how you feel... I couldn't go anywhere with my son for fear that he would act up, hit someone or just be rude. He has since calmed down so much that now he is such a lovely caring boy. Mind you, he still as his moments, but don't we all?? Just maybe give him a chance and try not to overthink things, which can be tough I know! Good luck!
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